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Stay-at-home mom & her bundle of joy

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Stay-at-home mom & her bundle of joy

Jessica Becker poses with her four-year-old daughter, Lauren, who will start kindergarten next year.

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POSTED May 9, 2013 1:13 a.m.

Jessica Becker knows what it’s like to be there when her daughter wakes up every morning and when she goes to bed every night – relishing in the bundle of joy and energy that 4-year-old Lauren brings to her family. 

She also knows how empowering it can be to be a working woman that is able to juggle multiple things – to take on the world and leave her mark on it in more ways than one.

But she’d rather – nay, definitely – take the former. 

As part of a series of stories that The Bulletin will carry in the run-up to Mother’s Day, we sat down and chatted with Becker about the role of being a stay-at-home mom and why she chose it over being a working woman:

You’ve spent time both as a working mom and a stay-at-home mom. What’s the biggest difference, and why do you opt to stay with your daughter today?

“As a former working mother, it has its positive and negatives. As a working mother you have a sense of empowerment – like I can juggle home, life and work. But it’s exhausting. A stay-at-home mom is very rewarding as well because you have the ability to be there for all of your child’s school functions as well as bonding time on our down time. Also, you get to watch your child grow and witness their new developments instead of hearing about them second-hand.”

Mother’s Day is a chance to stop and say thank you to the women that brought us into the world and raised us into who we are today. How has being a mother changed your perspective on that?

“Becoming a mother yourself is a very humbling experience. As children all you know is how to depend on your mother for it all. Never do you realize what it is like to be the one depended upon. It’s hard work. I commend my mother and nana for all they have done for me. I have never been ungrateful, but now as a parent I have so much more appreciation for their hard work and efforts to give me a beautiful life. And that’s also what I strive to do for Lauren. So yes, for me, Mother’s Day is every day.”

What are the challenges of being a stay-at-home parent that people don’t realize?

“Being a stay-at-home mother does have some challenges. There is no break – you’re trying to run a household 24/7 and I think it’ s a little bit harder than going to work sometimes. You try to do laundry, clean the house and cook dinner – all the while meeting the demands of a four-year-old. It can be overwhelming.”

Does getting to spend that time with your daughter – and ultimately share that with your husband, Chris – help you appreciate the time? Or is it like she is literally growing up before your eyes?

“Staying at home does have its major rewards. I love being able to be home before my husband gets home from work – having the dinner done and the house cleaned as our baby girl is running around the house singing and dancing to her favorite song. It’s bitter sweet. It all goes by way too fast. I don’t want to miss any of it.”

What is life going to be like for you when your daughter starts Kindergarten next year?

“It makes me sad and proud. She has been in preschool for the past few years, so that I’m thankful for. School is already routine for her and she loves it. I’m excited for her to start this new chapter in her young life.”

How great is it for you to be able to share the things that you love with your daughter?

“It’s exciting seeing her show an interest in the things I love. For instance, she is such a girly-girl, which I was not. Well, I became a make-up artist and she loves makeup. Sometimes I take her with me to the salon with me to do makeup and she loves it. She will try to put makeup on anything or anyone. Not to mention she shares my love for the Giants. She sits and watches games with me and yell at the TV. It’s awesome.”

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