I used to laugh when I heard someone say, “You’re not dead until the government says you’re dead.”I thought that was just a sarcastic comment about the government being the Big Brother.Well, I’m not laughing anymore. The laughter stopped when Grandma Risso died on May 5, 2012. That’s when I met reality and made me junk the joke once and for all.My husband and I had the honor of making all the arrangements for grandma’s funeral services, with Grandpa Risso’s blessings.